You've had a long day. You're tired! But now your spouse comes up with a hair-brained plan for getting out of the house. "Let's go watch the curling tourney."
Well, that's not gonna happen - unless it's a Mystery Tour.
RULES of the TOURS
Participants: The Guide and the Guest
Frequency: Every week or two.
Alternate serving as Guide or Guest
Guide plans the activity and sets date and time
Guest can ask about appropriate dress - nothing more
Travel time < 30 minutes and activity < 3 hours
It works 'cause guide won't cancel - work went into the planning and a tour's been promised. Guest can't renege: she doesn't know where she's going. And having agreed to the time, she can't claim a conflict. Both are tied into the tour by respect for promises made to one another.
So Yep! You end up at the curling rink. And you greatly enjoy laughing together as you try to figure out the rules.
Try it. It's fun!