You've had a long day. You're tired! But now your spouse has come up with a hair-brained plan for getting out of the house. "Let's go watch the curling tournament."
What?!! That's not gonna happen - unless it's a Mystery Tour.
Participants: The Guide and Guest(s)
Frequency: Every two-four weeks
Alternate serving as Guide or Guest
Guide plans the activity and sets date and time
Guest can ask about appropriate dress - nothing more
Travel time < 30 minutes and activity < 3 hours
It works! Guide doesn't cancel - work went into the planning and a tour's been promised. Guest can't say she doesn't want to go - she doesn't know what or where, and having agreed to the date and time, she can't claim a conflict. Both are tied into the tour by respect for the promises made to one another.
So Yep! You'll end up at the curling rink. And you'll greatly enjoy laughing together as you try to figure out the rules. And Dang! It was cold in there! Try it. It's fun!